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Definition of Stress

In therapy, I define stress as resulting  from feelings, thoughts, and physiological symptoms that  create overwhelm and unhappiness. 

The better our coping skills are , the better we can deal with stress. Most of my work in therapy focuses on creating new coping skills and better problem solving.


Stress can come from real events, such as losing one’s job, financial struggles or relationship conflict. But stress also can come from our own perceptions of how the world works, of what others think of us, or of what our role should be. The stress we experience during the holidays perfectly illustrates this. These pages will discuss the facts about stress, what causes stress and how to deal with stress. The main page is linked to other pages that you can click on for information.

Definition of Stress: Workplace Stress

Stress in the workplace may consist of having too much work, not having the skills to do the work you are required to do, or having difficulty with colleagues. Much of the way corporations function these days adds to stress, which you can learn about here. Workplace stress is often most easily remedied by developing new coping skills to deal with the issues that are causing us stress. Please click here for more information on dealing with workplace stress

What are new coping skills? If, for example, the stress is coming from our relationship with your boss, learning how to best communicate and negotiate with your boss may be a skill to cultivate. If the stress comes from not having the knowledge you need to perform your job, then often the best way to handle that is to proactively get some education on skills, with or without the support of your employer.

If the stress is coming from a coworker , it may be important to figure out how to change how you are reacting or interacting with that person. At times employers will be flexible and accommodating, but we alone are responsible for taking care of ourselves. If you are a stressed employee, click here.

Definition of Stress: Relationship Stress

Stress from relationships is one of the most common forms of stress I see in my practice.

If you are having difficulty with your partner, it may be due to communication, being unhappy with who they are, or being unhappy with yourself. If you are unhappy with who your partner is, and changing them is a focus of your stress, it is important to either accept them or leave them. If you are unhappy with who you are, it may be necessary to get therapy to explore what you can do to feel better and live a happier life. If communication is the primary issue couples therapy may be a good option.

Parent’s relationship to their children is often a significant source of stress as well.  Everyone  questions their parenting and will often fear problems in their families or childhoods are responsible for their own struggles as a parent. 

Definition of stress: Family of Origin Stress

Family of origin stress is something we all know about! I think most families are dysfunctional! Begin a parent is hard and most people make mistakes. It is important as adults for us to be able to acknowledge how our upbringing and families may have affected us. Recognizing when we are triggered into painful and stressful emotions by our parents and siblings is an important step to reduce stress and having healthy adult relationships! Therapy can help with this, journaling can help with this, and dialog with our families may help with this.Often we don’t deal with our feelings at all and pretend they aren’t there. Feeling them fully is the first step in buffering yourself from family stress. Once you feel and understand your emotions, you can begin to be free from them.

Definition of Stress: Family Stress

Your own family may be a source of stress. If children are having difficulty or going through stress, or your partner is going through stress the whole family can be disrupted. In the event that you find your family is a source of stress for you, it may be important to seek family or individual therapy to help sort through what can be done.

Definition of Stress: Money Stress

Often money is a source of stress for many. Learn more about money and happiness here. Honestly looking at your finances, coming up with a realistic plan to manage them, is often the solution to money stress. People I work with in my practice who are having stress from money problems typically overspend, and ignore the reality of the financial situation. There are people who have been responsible with money, but then have tragedy strike or are simply struggling to keep up.

In these circumstances, all you can do is solve your problem in the best most feasible way and move on. Worrying and turning things over in your mind is self created stress. Regardless of the situation we are in there are ways for us to feel less stress.

Definition of Stress: I’m Not Good Enough Stress

This is another category of stress I see which is caused by people who just don’t feel good about themselves. It may be dissatisfaction with their jobs, their body, or other life choices. As with all stress it’s important to address what is underlying this, face it, feel it, and remedy it. If you have self defeating patterns, it’s worth exploring and getting help in therapy to move forward. Fear of failure often causes stress, as does perfectionism, which you can learn about here.

The Toll on Health “If your teeth are clenched and your fists are clenched, your lifespan is probably clenched. “~Terri Guillemets

Health and weight are also issues that cause stress in the clients I see. It is difficult to meet the standard society has dictated about our physical appearance and it’s difficult to say healthy when our stress level is high. Stress can also cause weight gain. Click here for more info about that.

These are the main forms of stress I see in my practice. Regardless of the form of stress , the plan for managing it is often the same. Face the problems honestly ,come up with a plan to deal with it that is the most feasible and stop worrying. It may take dedication and commitment to manage your stress, but it can be done.

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