Most of us think of a definition of stress involving the component of us feeling unpleasant in some way. The definition of stress is complicated because different people use this word in different ways. Stress results from feelings, thoughts, and physiological symptoms that accompany feeling overwhelmed by various situations. The better our coping skills are , the better we can deal with stress. Most of my work in therapy focuses on creating new coping skills and better problem solving.
Find out more about the causes of stress here.
Stress can come from real events, such as losing one’s job, financial struggles or relationship conflict. But stress also can come from our own perceptions of how the world works, of what others think of us, or of what our role should be. The stress we experience during the holidays perfectly illustrates this. These pages will discuss the facts about stress, what causes stress and how to deal with stress. The main page is linked to other pages that you can click on for information.
Definition of Stress: Workplace Stress
Stress in the workplace may consist of having too much work, not having the skills to do the work you are required to do, or having difficulty with colleagues. Much of the way corporations function these days adds to stress, which you can learn about here. Workplace stress is often most easily remedied by developing new coping skills to deal with the issues that are causing us stress. Please click here for more information on dealing with workplace stress
If for example, the stress is coming from our relationship with your boss, learning how to best communicate and negotiate with your boss may be a skill to cultivate. If the stress comes from not having the knowledge you need to perform your job, then often the best way to handle that is to proactively get some education, with or without the support of your employer.
If the stress is coming from a coworker , it may be important to figure out how to change how you are reacting or interacting with that person. Regardless of the source of workplace stress, it is important to know that you yourself are responsible for handling and recognizing your stress. At times employers will be flexible and accommodating, but we alone are responsible for taking care of ourselves. Blaming others rarely helps solve the problem. If you are a stressed employee, click here.
Definition of Stress: Relationship Stress
Stress from relationships is one of the most common forms of stress I see in my practice. Remember you are responsible for your own happiness and caring for yourself. If you are having difficulty with your partner, it may be due to communication, being unhappy with who they are, or being unhappy with yourself. If you are unhappy with who your partner is, and changing them is a focus of your stress, it is important to either accept them or leave them. If you are unhappy with who you are, it may be necessary to get therapy to explore what you can do to feel better and live a happier life.
If communication is the primary issue couples therapy may be a good option.
Parent’s relationship to their children is often a significant source of stress as well. People question their parenting and will often fear problems in their families or childhoods are responsible for their own struggles as a parent. Click here if you are a stressed mom. Click here to read more about stress management for women.
Definition of stress: Family of Origin Stress
Family of origin stress is something we all know about! I think most families are dysfunctional! Begin a parent is hard and most people make mistakes. It is important as adults for us to be able to acknowledge how our upbringing and families may have affected us. Recognizing when we are triggered into painful and stressful emotions by our parents and siblings is an important step to reduce stress and having healthy adult relationships! Therapy can help with this, journaling can help with this, and dialog with our families may help with this.
Again it’s important to realize as an adult, you must take responsibility for your own happiness. Often we don’t deal with our feelings at all and pretend they aren’t there. Feeling them fully is the first step in buffering yourself from family stress. Once you feel and understand your emotions, you can begin to be free from them.
Definition of Stress: Family Stress
Your own family may be a source of stress. If children are having difficulty or going through stress, or your partner is going through stress the whole family can be disrupted. In the event that you find your family is a source of stress for you, it may be important to seek family or individual therapy to help sort through what can be done.
Definition of Stress: Money Stress
Often money is a source of stress for many. Learn more about money and happiness here. Honestly looking at your finances, coming up with a realistic plan to manage them, is often the solution to money stress. People I work with in my practice who are having stress from money problems typically overspend, and ignore the reality of the financial situation. There are people who have been responsible with money, but then have tragedy strike or are simply struggling to keep up.
In these circumstances, all you can do is solve your problem in the best most feasible way and move on. Worrying and turning things over in your mind is self created stress. Regardless of the situation we are in there are ways for us to feel less stress.
Definition of Stress: I’m Not Good Enough Stress
This is another category of stress I see which is caused by
people who just don’t feel good about themselves. It may be
dissatisfaction with their jobs, their body, or other life choices. As
with all stress it’s important to address what is underlying this, face
it, feel it, and remedy it. If you have self defeating patterns, it’s
worth exploring and getting help in therapy to move forward. Fear of failure often causes stress, as does perfectionism, which you can learn about here.
The Toll on Health “If your teeth are clenched and your fists are clenched, your lifespan is probably clenched. “~Terri Guillemets
Health and weight are also issues that cause stress in the clients I see. It is difficult to meet the standard society has dictated about our physical appearance and it’s difficult to say healthy when our stress level is high.
These are the main forms of stress I see in my practice. Regardless of the form of stress , the plan for managing it is often the same. Face the problems honestly ,come up with a plan to deal with it that is the most feasible and stop worrying. It may take dedication and commitment to manage your stress, but it can be done.
There are often many physical manifestations of stress. Click here for more information about stress and hives.
Click here for information about stress and weight loss. Click here for information about cortisol and stress. Click here for information about pain and stress reduction. Click here for more information on how stress affects health , and how exercise can help with stress.
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